Howtorunteaseanddenial sessionsinchat,andgetpaid.

What is a tease and denial session in chat?

It is a timed, written exchange where a domme leads a sub towards something and keeps stopping him short, on purpose, as the game. The pleasure for him is in the waiting and in being told no by a woman he has chosen to obey. The pleasure for you is control, and the income is in the steps along the way.

Chat suits it better than video because written denial is slower. A "stop" in text sits on the screen. He reads it twice. You can leave him there for five minutes while you make tea, and that five minutes is part of the session. Nothing on camera gives you that pacing for free.

It is a consensual game between adults. He has asked for it, you have agreed to lead it, and both of you can end it at any point. Say that out loud at the start. It is not a mood-killer. It is the thing that lets him relax into it.

How do you agree limits before a session?

Ask three questions and get written answers in the chat: what he wants from tonight, what he does not want, and what he can afford to spend. Accept all three answers as given. The third one is the only number in the session you do not set, and respecting it is what makes him a regular rather than a one-off.

Then state your own limits and rules. What you will not do, what words you expect, how he addresses you, whether he may message between instructions. Keep it to a few lines. Rules read like a domme; a long form reads like a contract.

Finish with the stop word or phrase, for both of you. He uses it if he needs to end. You use it when the session is over. Having one costs nothing and removes every grey area.

• What he wants, what he does not want, what he can afford
• Your rules, in a few lines, in your voice
• One stop phrase, for either side

How do you structure the tease?

Open with the price of starting. The sub says good evening, you say what tonight costs to begin, he tips, the tip card appears in the thread, and the session is live. That first tribute sets the tone: nothing tonight is free, and he knew that coming in.

Then slow down. Short lines. Instructions, not conversation. Tell him where his hands go and when. Make him wait for each reply a beat longer than feels natural. The sub is paying for your attention, and attention given slowly is worth more than attention given fast.

Build in three or four paid steps. Each one is a small permission he earns: to look at something, to touch, to continue. Each is named with a price before it is granted, paid by tip or by a pay-to-view message you send with the price set, and granted the moment it lands. Then denied again.

How do tips and pay-to-view messages fit into a session?

Tips are for permissions and attention: the right to continue, the right to speak, the right to be answered. On BaddieVids a tip lands as a card in the conversation, so the record of the session is the chat itself. You can scroll back and see exactly what he paid for and when.

Pay-to-view messages are for things he sees: a photo, a short clip, a voice note. You send the message with the price on it, he unlocks it, and it becomes part of the thread. Mixing the two keeps the session moving. A tip for permission, a locked message for the reward, another tip to go on.

Keep your numbers to yourself here and decide them in advance. A domme who makes up prices mid-session sounds uncertain. A domme with a set price for each step sounds like she has done this before, which is what he wants to feel.

How do you end a tease and denial session?

You end it, not him, and you end it with a no. "Stop. You do not get to finish tonight." is the whole point of the session, and the sub who booked a tease and denial session is disappointed if he gets anything else. Say it once, clearly, and do not negotiate.

Then switch registers for one message. Out of character, briefly: check he is alright, tell him he did well, tell him when you will speak next. This is aftercare, and in a written session it takes one line. Skipping it is the most common mistake dommes make online, and the quickest way to lose a sub who would have come back.

Name the next session before you close the chat. A day and a time. He will be there. A sub who leaves without a date drifts; a sub with a date on the calendar spends the week thinking about you, which is the state you want him in.

• End on a no, in character, no negotiation
• One line out of character: are you alright, well done, next time
• Book the next session before he leaves

How do you turn sessions into regular income?

Run them on a schedule. A sub who has a session every Thursday at nine is a sub who tributes every Thursday at nine. Offer a standing slot to your best regulars and treat it as theirs. Missing it costs them the slot, not you.

Watch who is slipping. Baddie Coach, inside your BaddieVids creator account, shows which fans have gone quiet and which spend the most, from your own numbers. A regular who missed his session is a message you send that day, in character, asking where he was.

Offer the next level when he is ready. A sub who has done several chat sessions is the right person to offer a private 1-on-1 live session or a custom video to. The chat sessions are where you learn what he wants. The rest is what you sell him once you know.